Slutting Around with Janet W. Hardy

I firmly believe that anyone who can come out, should. The more of us there are leading our happy, responsible, mutually supportive lives, the more people will see that it is possible to be non-monogamous and also be ethical and a good member of our community.

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Amber Rose Slutwalk 2015 vs Slutwalk LA 2011

When it comes to rape myths, that battle is already won, or almost won, at least in SoCal. As I walked around downtown LA with my “No Shaming This Slut” Slutwalk sign, people asked about it, and everyone nodded their heads in agreement, that of course no one deserves to be raped because of what they are wearing. (There may be a few troglodytes who still feel differently, but they are also the tinfoil hat kind who believe we faked the Moon landing, so, whatevs.)

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Before #MeToo, There Was Unslut

There are women who’ve been slut-shamed who’ve had the maturity and power to ignore it. To be inspired by the slur, even, and throw it back in people’s faces: Ainsi sera, groigne qui groigne [Suck it, bitches. It’s happening! or, another, more elegant translation: Let them grumble, that’s how it’s going to be!] ~Anne Boleyn.

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Why I (Often) Like Sex on the First Date

I’ve had ONSs (One Night Stands) turn into long term relationships. I’ve had relationships morph from romantic and sexual into enduring platonic friendships, and back to FWB, to… who knows? Relationships are extremely fluid things, regardless of if and when sex enters the mix.

The kind of partners who interest me are not checking the mileage on my vagina.

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Message from Slutwalk LA: Slut Means WE Choose

Every human being should have autonomy over his/her own body, and be free from sexual assault. Whether one is a p0rn star or an altar boy, a college co-ed or serving in the US military, whether one has flirted, has had a few drinks, is dressed like a “slut,” or all of the above, no one deserves be to sexually assaulted, and no one should be blamed or made to feel ashamed for being assaulted.

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